Our vibrator buying guide for beginners: How to choose a sex toy

Whether you’re looking for the best bullet vibrators or the best vibrators for couples to spice things up in the bedroom , we’ve done the hard work for you. “Wands can feel intimidating to someone who has never used a sex toy before, so I recommend this as something that’s a bit more approachable and discreet for beginners,” sex therapist Madeline Cooper, LCSW, tells SELF. Despite its size, this mini massager still has an impressive number of speeds. It’s also budget-friendly, has only one button (no need to spend time deciphering the controls), and comes with a small—and discreet—silicone case. Wands are bigger than many other types of vibrators, which makes them amazing at radiating strong sensations across larger areas.

This harness set comes complete with everything you need for partnered strap-on play. Though it can be used with other dildos as well, the harness is made to fit the included rabbit vibrator which features 15 vibration functions and a five-inch insertable shaft. Reviewers are sure to note this toy’s surprisingly low volume when raving.

The company took into account feedback from the previous version and made this one quieter, stronger and longer-lasting and included a remote. Pop it into its protective case and no one will know it’s not fancy headphones. It’s understandable that you might not want to buy a toy designed just for balls stimulation, especially if you’re not sure you’ll like it. This little vibrator fits perfectly into the palm of your hand and can feel good on not only the balls and scrotum, but also the perineum and frenulum. You can use it with a partner, too—it fits nicely between bodies during penetrative sex.

These toys typically go around the base of the penis (and sometimes they also have a loop to go around the testicles). They gently restrict blood from leaving the penis, which can lead to longer, harder erections and more intense orgasms. Some cock rings also have a built-in vibrator to provide more stimulation against a partner’s body during sex. Using a lubricant with sex toys can make your sex play sessions all the more pleasurable.

Whether you’re new to vibrators or want to add to your toy collection, these are some of the best vibrator styles and models you can buy today. This device—with its sleek viberator, ergonomic body—simulates (really good) oral sex via waves and pulses of air. Its widened mouth makes it perfect for use on other erogenous zones. If you plan on vibing with a partner, opt for the Divvy, a device controlled by a remote control that can be used at a distance up to 30 (yes, you read that right) feet.